So many of us are aware that we need to make changes in our lives, and many of us use this time of year to make resolutions to propel us into creating or releasing habits in order to become better versions of ourselves. However, so many times these resolutions are ephemeral. Why? Do we add too much pressure on ourselves so that we give up entirely when we fail to meet our expectations? Do we become overwhelmed with guilt for not doing it right the first time, and thus postpone our growth until next year?
Change is a process- throughout our lives, we learn by making mistakes and then understanding our mistakes, so why does this not apply to resolutions? I think many people forget the root of the reason they want to make changes. Instead of saying “I want to lose weight” or “I want to get in shape,” think about WHY you want this. Is it to fit in the skinny jeans? Is it to have energy to spend with your kids and family? Is it to take steps to prolong your life? Is it all of the above?
These deeper meanings or intentions are known as Sankalpa, a heartfelt desire or commitment to achieve our true potential. Sankalpa can give you a deeper focus and purpose for meaningful change. Change takes time, it does not happen overnight or even in a week, and real change occurs only when we maintain our focus and refuse to give up when we encounter obstacles. Be gentle with yourself, take it one step at a time, and remember to breathe. You will slip occasionally, but don’t use that as an excuse to quit; instead, come back to your Sankalpa and remember the root of the reason that you are committed to changing yourself. Let your Sankalpa be the fire within you that fuels your journey.